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Sally J. Cox

Sally J. Cox

July 21, 1937 - July 2, 2024

Sally Jane (Fitzsimons) Cox was born on July 21, 1937, in Mineral Point, Wisconsin and died on July 2, 2024, in Oshkosh, Wisconsin, surrounded by family. She passed away peacefully after a long, well-fought battle with Parkinson’s disease. 

Sally was proud to have been a drum majorette and graduated from Hollandale High School in 1955. She obtained an Associate’s Degree in Education from the University of Wisconsin at Platteville. She met the love of her life, Richard Cox, at a local roller rink, and they were married more than 66 years ago on May 31, 1958. 

Sally taught in two different one room schoolhouses: Jonesdale, Wisconsin for one year and at Willow Creek School near Potosi, Wisconsin for one year, until she left to raise their five children and help on the farm. She eventually returned to be a special education teacher at Winskill Elementary in Lancaster, where she was devoted to all of her students for over 35 years. 

Sally was extraordinarily warm and passionately optimistic. She truly touched the lives of those around her. Countless former students and teachers fondly recall her authentic instruction and kind words. Sally loved to read, visit with friends and family, look through her photo albums, and was enthusiastic about traveling, as she vacationed in England, Scotland, Italy, Ireland, France, and Mexico. She was a fiercely devoted wife, mother, grandmother, and great grandmother. Sally truly was a force to be reckoned with, and she will be sorely missed. After being diagnosed with Parkinson’s, she bravely forged ahead and always made the best of the present moment. Willa Cather’s literary quote is particularly appropriate: “If there were no girls like them in the world, there would be no poetry.”

Sally is survived by her devoted husband, Richard Cox; her daughter, Rebecca Koechell of Oshkosh; daughter Lisa Cox (Sean Murphy) of Oshkosh, son James (Margaret) Cox of West Salem, son Michael (Lindsay) Cox of Vincent, Iowa, son Ryan Cox of Lee’s Summit, Missouri, her sister, Patricia (Carl) Schneider of Hollandale, her sister/travel companion, Susan Palcek of Hazel Crest, Illinois, ten grandchildren, five great grandchildren, many nieces and nephews, and three very special friends: Pam Critchlow, Sue Krause, and Doug Koechell. 

Sally was preceded in death by her parents, Russell and Florence (Chappell) Fitzsimons, and brother, James “Jake” Fitzsimons. 

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Toni Pais

Toni Pais

August 23, 1954 - July 7, 2024

One of Pittsburgh’s most transformational restaurant figures, Antonio “Toni” Pais passed away on July 7 from complications of Parkinson’s disease. He was 69.

Mr. Pais arrived in Pittsburgh in 1978. He took a job as maître d’ of La Normande, the boundary-pushing Oakland restaurant that set the standard for city dining at the time. It was the first step in a 45-year culinary journey in Pittsburgh for the chef and restaurateur born in Cascais, Portugal, in 1954.

Along the way, Mr. Pais ran the front of house of several storied establishments, opened and operated three restaurants and carried the mantle of upscale European dining across generations.

“He started his career as a professional waiter. It’s considered a trade in Europe, and he brought that professionalism here to Pittsburgh,” says Jean-Marc Chatellier, owner of Jean-Marc Chatellier's French Bakery in Millvale; the two worked together at La Normande and remained friends throughout the years, bonded by a love of food and soccer.

For the past two decades, the charismatic bon vivant of Baum Vivant did all of it while battling Parkinson’s disease.

Lover of food, life and soccer

Mr. Pais met Becky Friday in 1986 while playing racquetball.

“He wiped the sweat off my brow and asked if he could take me on a picnic. We had a beautiful time together under the big red tree in Mellon Park,” she says. Her surname would change a few years later when the two married.

Becky Pais recalls how the two of them grilled sardines at a 300-person party for their wedding, held at a friend’s home in Schenley Farms. As Mrs. Pais says, it was par for the course for the couple, who always had a great time throwing a party for people.

“We had a beautiful journey the whole way. We had such a lovely ride,” she says.

That ride featured uncommon intertwinement between personal and professional lives, with the couple opening and operating Baum Vivant and Cafe Zinho in Shadyside and Cafe Zao Downtown, all three playing a significant role in the preservation and growth of Pittsburgh’s restaurant culture.

“Toni was so happy to offer his brand of hospitality to people. He loved the restaurants. We had a fun, gorgeous time doing what we did,” Becky Pais says.

Mr. Pais worked long hours but still found time to celebrate his other passion: soccer. He participated in competitive recreational leagues, sometimes playing with Pittsburgh’s hospitality industry colleagues.

“We would work until whenever and stay up past midnight and then go play soccer the next morning,” says Abdel Khila, who initially met Pais on a soccer field.

The Morocco-born chef worked for Mr. Pais in 1998 as a chef at Baum Vivant and later ran the kitchen at Cafe Zinho prior to opening Kous Kous Cafe in Mt. Lebanon in 2009. 

When he wasn’t playing the sport, Mr. Pais watched professional matches, including those of S.L. Benfica, a top-tier team based in Lisbon.

‘No job too big or too small’

Becky and Toni Pais launched their first restaurant, Baum Vivant, in Shadyside in 1992, reclaiming space for a then-fading fine dining scene in Pittsburgh.

“We scrubbed the floors. We reupholstered the furniture,” says Mrs. Pais. “Toni was so proud and so humble, no job was too big or too small for him.”

In her first review of Baum Vivant in 1993, longtime Post-Gazette dining critic Woodene Merriman declared the lobster bisque the best she’d ever tasted and praised the beef Olympia, but she noted that the tables were packed tightly together.

Ms. Merriman returned five years later, giving the restaurant four stars, describing the food as “almost flawless” and announcing it as “one of the city’s best.”

Mr. Pais was among the few restaurateurs buying locally grown ingredients when industrial food processing reigned supreme. By purchasing produce from pioneering Pittsburgh-area farmers such as Darrell and Linda Frey’s permaculture-focused Three Sisters Farm in Sandy Lake and lamb from Keith Martin’s Elysian Fields in Waynesburg, Mr. Pais helped lay the framework for today’s farm-to-restaurant economy in Pittsburgh.

“If you were a farmer or a food seller and you had an ingredient you think is unique or unknown by most chefs because they wouldn’t know what to do with it, go see Toni. His eyes would twinkle right away,” says Mr. Khila.

The restaurant earned Mr. Pais numerous accolades, including Pittsburgh's first-ever James Beard Chef of the Year nomination in 2002 and an eight-year run as Pittsburgh Magazine’s Restaurant of the Year. 

“He kept the mantle of high level European dining in Pittsburgh. Everything was professional at Baum Vivant,” says Mr. Chatellier, who worked with Toni Pais at La Normande in the 1980s.

Toni and Becky Pais expanded their reach in 1999 to open Cafe Zinho. The cozy yet boisterous BYOB on Spahr Street in Shadyside allowed Pais to offer a more casual take on Mediterranean cuisine. Though the space remained lively with a festive, coastal atmosphere throughout its run, it eventually became a destination for eaters looking for attentive, fine-dining standards as Pittsburgh’s restaurant culture (and restaurant culture in the United States) shifted toward a more informal dining experience.

In 2004, the Pittsburgh Cultural Trust brought Toni and Becky Downtown to open Cafe Zao, a hip, Portuguese-inspired restaurant meant to be a cornerstone of the revamped Cultural District. The menu at the 3,000-square-foot restaurant featured dishes including caldo verde, a potato and kale soup popular in Northern Portugal, and chicken Maputo, a simmered peri-peri chicken dish named after the capital of Mozambique.

Life-changing surgery

Mr. Pais bounced between all three establishments until 2006, when he and Becky decided to close Baum Vivant, citing a massive construction project on Baum Boulevard.

He began showing symptoms of Parkinson’s disease a year prior to closing Baum Vivant. By 2011, the year he and Becky closed Cafe Zao, the disease had progressed to the point where it was affecting his ability to perform his vocation.

“He fought so hard during his illness,” she says. “He never complained. He just kept going even when it was too hard for him to do much of anything.”

Mr. Pais still went grocery shopping and cooked as much as he could for Cafe Zinho, but he was increasingly limited to participating from the sidelines.

“Cooking was his joy. To please people with food was his joy. It was a way to survive. That was it. He had Parkinson’s, doesn’t matter. He still wanted to cook. He was still there,” says Mr. Chantillier.

In 2012, Mr. Pais became one of the first Parkinson’s patients in Pittsburgh to be given deep brain stimulation surgery under general anesthesia. Until then, patients needed to remain awake throughout the process while doctors implanted electrodes in certain parts of the brain and ran wires to a pacemaker-like device in the chest. The implant allows for electrical impulses to stimulate dopamine production, significantly soothing the symptoms of Parkinson’s.

Mr. Pais at the time said he felt his strength coming back to him just moments after Dr. Mark Richardson, then co-director of functional neurosurgery at UPMC, completed the operation with the assistance of an MRI machine.

“I felt it [Parkinson’s] releasing me. I was in control again,” he told the Post-Gazette in 2013.

He returned to the kitchen at Cafe Zinho shortly after the surgery, which was deemed an overwhelming success. For the next 10 years, he continued to operate the restaurant with a team of chefs under his wing.

Always a mentor

Throughout his career, Pais mentored generations of Pittsburgh restaurant workers, both front- and back-of-house. He also served as an informal instructor at the now-closed Art Institute of Pittsburgh and Community College of Allegheny County’s Culinary Arts Program.

“Working with Toni was like getting a one-on-one, four-year education at the Culinary Institute of America, but free of charge. Toni’s knowledge of wine and cuisine were legendary,” writes Rob Cort, Mr. Pais’ primary dining room captain at La Normande, in a text message.

“Toni set me on the path I’m on today. I wouldn’t be in the industry in the way I am because of him,” says Tzveti Gintcheva, owner of De Pan Y Queso Bocadillos Bar in Marshall-Shadeland.

Ms. Gintcheva started working at Cafe Zinho shortly after she immigrated to Pittsburgh from her native Bulgaria. She later joined Mr. Pais Downtown as general manager of Cafe Zao, where he sponsored her for an H-1B visa.

“Pittsburgh enjoyed him as a culinary talent and work as a restaurateur, but at the same time he was so humble that you would never know how many lives he touched over the years. He was a force in the industry,” she says. “He stood up for immigrant workers, too.”

Mr. Pais also set an example of how to run both front- and back-of-house. Numerous former employees say he worked with a gentle touch that was uncommon in higher-end restaurants, where a hierarchical kitchen brigade system and the verbal abuse that often came with it were the norm.

“He was always so good to the cooks — so kind, so fun, so patient and mostly, so generous,” says Mary Spiro.

Ms. Spiro, a line cook at La Normande from 1985-88, says she still recalls a paella he made for a staff meal nearly 40 years ago. “To this day, the memory of the seafood and the saffron and the beautiful color of the broth still make me smile,” she says.

A long legacy

Mr. Pais kept Cafe Zinho relevant during Pittsburgh’s mid-2010s restaurant revival, even as hipper joints opened (and later closed) throughout the city.

Three years ago, he had emergency hernia surgery, and doctors discovered rectal cancer. His chemotherapy port proved to interact poorly with the electrodes in his Parkinson’s treatment.

“Anytime he moved, he was electrocuted,” Mrs. Pais says.

Doctors had to remove the port and try to treat his cancer in other ways. Mr. Pais was in and out of medical treatment, facing a steep decline in his health.

The couple decided to close Cafe Zinho in February 2023.

“It was very tough for us to make this decision. But, with my health the way it is, I can’t operate the restaurant the way I want to,” Mr. Pais said at the time.

With his health failing, his step-son, Josh Masslon, organized a GoFundMe campaign that raised nearly $27,000 to send Pais to Portugal one final time. Mr. Massolon, an intensive care nurse, accompanied him for several weeks in October and November so that his step-father could say goodbye to family, friends and his native country.

“They had a wonderful trip. I’m so glad they had that opportunity,” says Mrs. Pais. “This dear, beautiful man had to suffer for way too long.”

Toni Pais is survived by his wife, two step-children, two sisters and a large extended family. 

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James "Jim" Clayton Taylor

James "Jim" Clayton Taylor

November 27, 1939 - March 15, 2018

Palm Springs - James Clayton Taylor passed away peacefully on November 2, 2018 at the age of 91. Known as Clayton to his family and friends, he was a resident of Palm Springs for 57 years. Born and raised in Mississippi, he was the third child of Jimmie Lewers Taylor and James Edgar Taylor. Upon graduation from high school, Clayton joined the U.S. Navy and served as a Radioman and Tail gunner. Shortly after his honorable discharge in 1946 he joined the Federal Bureau of Investigation in Washington D.C. and became a Special Agent. It was there he met and married Frances Coore with whom he had three children. During his distinguished career in the F.B. I. he was assigned to offices in Miami, Pittsburgh, and Los Angeles. In 1961 he was assigned to open and establish the Palm Springs Resident Agency for the F.B.I. Upon moving his family to Palm Springs, he developed relationships with local law enforcement and proceeded to work on cases involving organized crime, fugitives, kidnappings, bankruptcy and bank fraud, and crimes on the 29 Palms Marine base. Within months of opening the Palm Springs office he was working on over 100 cases. During his time in the F.B.I. he had the opportunity to meet the following Presidents and former Presidents: Herbert Hoover, Dwight D. Eisenhower, John F. Kennedy, Lyndon B. Johnson, Richard Nixon, Gerald Ford, and Ronald Reagan. He retired from the F.B.I. in 1978 and then went to work for Thrifty Corporation as the Regional Manager of Loss Prevention, a position he held for 15 years.

Clayton was an active member in the Society of Former Special Agents of the F.B. I. and was an original member of the Purple Gang of Palm Springs. He was also an avid golfer and, through the years, worked as a volunteer for various charitable golf tournaments.

Clayton was preceded in death by his wife, Frances, in 2009. In 2014 he married Cynthia Campbell. He is survived by his wife Cynthia, his children Thomas Taylor, Kathryn Taylor, Jane Wang and her husband Sang Pao, and his grandson Thomas Wang.

Clayton will be remembered for his quick wit and sense of humor, his love of life, and his dedication and devotion to his family and friends.
 

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Paul W. Schneider

Paul W. Schneider

December 4, 1954 - July 11, 2024

Paul W. Schneider, 69, of Dakota Dunes, SD died Thursday, July 11, 2024, after a long battle with Parkinson's Disease.

Paul was born December 4, 1954, to Otto and Marian (Karlson) Schneider in Cherokee, IA. The family moved to Sioux City in 1965 where Paul graduated from North High School in 1973. He attended Iowa State University and Devry Institute of Technology. Paul married Kerry Wilen of Sioux City in 1988.

Instilled with an entrepreneurial spirit through his upbringing, Paul was involved in many business ventures in Siouxland including Weller Plastics, Airways Services, and Gerkin Windows and Doors. Paul and Kerry lived in Arizona for about 12 years where Paul had private aviation services companies and a door manufacturing company. They then moved to Dakota Dunes where they lived for the last 20 years. Paul retired from Gerkin in 2019.

In retirement Paul enjoyed spending time with his wife at his cabin at Ten Mile Lake, MN, where he had also spent many summers with his family while growing up. In winter they enjoyed warmth and family in Scottsdale, AZ.

Paul liked working with his hands, golf, and adventurous "boys' toys" like his hydroplane at Ten Mile Lake and learning to fly ultra-light aircraft. He could also bake up a mean batch of Swedish rye bread from scratch. Music was a passion for Paul, and he got great joy from finding songs and artists that he thought others would like and sharing them with scores of friends.

With a gift for being in tune with the things that are truly important in all aspects of life, Paul stayed true to himself and was never swayed by fad or convention. He was known for, and proud of his unwavering work ethic throughout his life.

Paul was humble, generous, kind, had a quiet strength and always delighted others with his unexpected humor. Strong love and loyalty for family and friends were his anchor.

Paul was a beloved husband, brother, son, uncle, and friend. He was preceded in death by his mother Marian, and his father Otto.

Survivors include his wife Kerry of Dakota Dunes; brother Steve (Julie) Schneider of Dakota Dunes, brother-in-law Steve Wilen, sister-in-law Kris Brown, both of Dakota Dunes; nine nieces and nephews and nine grandnieces and grandnephews.

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Jerry Plavin

Jerry Plavin

July 21, 1939 - July 17, 2024

Jerry Plavin, a noted Bucks County entrepreneur and community leader formerly of Fairless Hills, Levittown, and Bristol, died Wednesday at Ann's Choice in Warminster, PA, after a prolonged battle with Parkinson's disease. He was 84 years old.

A veteran of the US Air Force, after graduating from Penn State in 1961, he worked for his father in Bristol, eventually opening his own store, Jerry Plavin's Appliances, in Levittown, PA. With its bright sign and helpful staff, the store was a landmark for decades in Bucks County. Thousands of area families and businesses depended on Plavin’s Appliances for their appliance and later furniture needs. Jerry took pride in his clever, award-winning advertising and marketing, as those who know his catchphrase “We Beat Any Deal!” or who took advantage of special sales events such as “Jerry Christmas” and a visit from Hank Aaron that packed the store can attest. 

A world traveler who was once personally invited by the President of Sony Corporation to visit their headquarters in Japan, Jerry would often say his favorite place was the condo he once owned in Ventnor, NJ, where he could watch the sunrise and grandchildren play.  He was a most beloved and caring husband and father. He ran his business as he lived his life, filled with the joy of being alive, the love of family and friends, and the sweetness and happiness he found everywhere. He was beautiful inside as well as out. We shall remember him with love and gratitude.

Jerry is survived by his wife Pearl (nee Carman), his brothers Jules (Peg) Plavin and Stan (Lisa) Plavin, his children Lori Salganicoff (Marcos), Jody Sciamanna (Eric Reeser), Ben Plavin (Pat Furlan) and Matt Plavin and his beloved grandchildren Sophia, Jillian, Joe, David, and Joseph. He was predeceased by his parents Leon and Freda Plavin, and his infant son David.

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