
Lesley Elliott
Lesley Elliott’s husband of 50 years has paid tribute to the domestic violence campaigner, who has died following an “incredibly difficult” battle with Parkinson’s disease and dementia.
The 76-year-old, who was the mother of Sophie Elliot, died at Ross Home in Dunedin on Sunday.
Following the brutal murder of Sophie by her former boyfriend Clayton Weatherston in 2008, Lesley set up the Sophie Elliott Foundation and toured New Zealand teaching young people about safe and healthy relationships and the warning signs of abuse.
Gil Elliott paid tribute to his former wife of 50 years, who became a tireless campaigner after their daughter’s death.
That included talking to young women around the country about abusive relationships.
He will deliver a eulogy at Friday’s service and noted their two sons “had been robbed of the two women in our family”.
Her declining health over the past two years had been “incredibly difficult” for the family, he said.
Lesley Elliott co-authored a best-selling book about her daughter’s death, Sophie's Legacy, with Bill O’Brien. At least eight women credited it as being the catalyst for them leaving their violent partners.
O’Brien, a Dunedin-based author, said he approached Elliott about writing the book “to give her a voice” after the high-profile court trial.
“There were days when I would sit down at her home to do an interview, and she would take out a note that Sophie had written and just lose it ... So we would go for a walk on the beach and have another go the next day.”
The book, and the Loves-Me-Not programme designed to prevent abusive behaviour in relationships, resulted in the pair receiving hundreds of positive responses from people who had been in unhealthy relationships.
“I firmly believe if Sophie had a programme like Loves-Me-Not in her final years at school she would have known when things went wrong in her relationship,” Elliott told Stuff in 2014.
Her ill health led to the police taking over as lead agency for the programme and its resources. Loves-Me-Not continued to cater for year 12 students across New Zealand.
“An incredible lady, she used to say ‘I don’t know what all the fuss is about – I’m just a nurse and a mother,’” O’Brien said.
She would go on to receive the NEXT magazine Woman of the Year Award, which celebrates outstanding achievements of Aotearoa women, in 2011. She then took out the supreme award at the 2014 Women of Influence Awards.
In the 2015 Queen’s Birthday Honours, she was made a member of the New Zealand Order of Merit for her services to the prevention of domestic violence.
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